This has been written in a sincere bid to solve the current disgusting and unacceptable situation existing in our societies with respect to social relationships. The need to have stable marriages and good brotherhood are what is needed to have a society that is well oiled and happy. A happy society is a successful and healthy society that should be the goal of any nation. To strive for same is the first step in the right direction.
Marriages in India are a sacred phenomenon and it used to be the same in the West too till sometime back but now the situation is different. A marriage is an institution for companionship and should not be misconstrued as an avenue for sex. It is love, care, trust and togetherness that make it so sacred and interesting all the time. If there is love in a marriage, sex will be a part of it. A well managed marriage is the best bet to a healthy and happy life.
In the West where marriages have become obsolete and have lost sheen it is because infidelity, misplaced priorities, distractions, financial insecurities, lack of faith in God and each other, deterioration in social, cultural, religious and personal values and a general apathy in being loyal to one person from the opposite sex has paved the way to marriage failure. It is difficult to put a broken institution back together, remember that being monogamous is right.
In India, be it a love or arranged marriage, the parties involved refrain from having sex in almost all cases and it is supposed that the spouses will remain virgins till they get married and remain loyal thereafter. This is true for other cultures too but not deemed important in the Western culture and this is a severe fallacy that should be done away with. To respect each other's purity is the first step to succeed. We know that we are social and not sex animals. Sex is not a basic need. You can't live without food and water but can without sex.
You should treat sex as sacred and one to be enjoyed not every now and then but once in a while. Sex is fun only if held sacred and involving just your spouse. It should be borne in mind that open relationships, adultery and prostitution break marriages and as such should never be indulged in and are best treated as enemies of marriages. There is no room for cheating in any marriage and spouses should guard themselves against it.
Marriages need to be worked upon just like any other relationship before it starts working for you. Having a reasonable expectation in any marriage is only just and welcome but it may take time. Never giving up on understanding your spouse and making yourself understood, sorting issues together and having a caring and helping attitude in a positive environment will give true results. Marriages are created to succeed, we fail.
Also it needs to be mentioned that just like you are supposed to help unconditionally your spouse, in a society that is successful you are supposed to help others without prejudices. Do not be cowed down if the needy has a different background, culture, religion, attitude or a different thinking and outlook. Help others as you would want you to be helped in times of need. Never let a person feel that you are a mean person.
You never lose out if you reach out to others. You never become poor by giving love, care, trust, happiness or anything that you can share, least of all help. If you want stability in a society then your best bet is laying the foundation to a helping and caring society where all contribute and receive at the same time in a quest for a better tomorrow. Build today, live forever! A stable society is one where people believe in peace achieved thus.
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